“A General Theory of Love” is a book written by Thomas Lewis, Fari Amini, and Richard Lannon, exploring the science behind human emotions and the role of love in shaping our brains and relationships. The book emphasises that love is not simply an emotion or a fleeting feeling, but rather a fundamental need deeply ingrained in our biology.
In the context of coaching supervision, “A General Theory of Love” provides valuable insights into understanding the emotional dynamics that underlie coaching relationships. It highlights the significance of empathy, connection, and attunement in fostering effective coaching interactions. Just as love and emotional resonance are crucial in personal relationships, they are also vital in the coach-client relationship.
Because people are most aware of the verbal, rational part of their brains, they assume that every part of their mind should be amenable to the pressure of argument and will. Not so, words, good ideas, and logic mean nothing to at least two brains out of three. Much of one’s mind does not take orders.
(Lewis, Amini & Lannon, 2001, pg. 33).
Coaching supervision can benefit from this theory by recognising the importance of creating a safe and supportive space where coaches can explore their own emotional experiences, self-awareness, and capacity for empathic attunement. Supervisors can encourage coaches to cultivate emotional intelligence, allowing them to better understand and respond to the needs and emotions of their clients.
By incorporating the principles outlined in “A General Theory of Love” into coaching supervision, supervisors can help coaches deepen their understanding of the emotional dimensions of coaching, enhance their ability to establish strong connections with clients, and ultimately provide more effective support and guidance.
